My girlfriends job comes to a end in a couple of months and I think she should be applying for jobs now in readyness for her impending unemployment.
She's a hard worker but she seems to find the whole applying for jobs thing thoroughly irritating and annoying and puts it off. If I approach
the subject she gets the hump and goes off in a huff. in my opinion she should be approaching companies, sending emails, networking and generally
being pro-active.
I know how galling it is with the constant rejection as I applied for at least 80 jobs before I got my current job but I can't very well apply
for her (I have a car to build 
).
I just want to give her a sense of urgency about the situation that doesn't result in a grump.
Sounds like the opposite to me and the wife.
Shes the one always planning and telling me I should do this now before it gets to late.
I like to do things as when they are absolutely needed, and not before.
hmmmmmmmmmmmmm men & womans brains are wired to a whole other set of plans, your on a hiding to nowhere, whatever way you approach it it will turn
in to a "kicking the Sh**" outta you scenarion no matter what.
best buy a gimp suit and enjoy it when it turns out to "be all your fault" 
wish my ride would actively seek employment....... does a job exist for being on face book 18 hrs aday....
Exactly the same as my Mrs. Now out of work and fair enough she keeps her eyes open but I can't help feeling there needs to be more urgency in her actions as she seems to be missing the few jobs that come up. But like you, when I approach the matter the arguments start. I don't think there's any real answer.
she sounds like me, my job finished just before xmas, i'm constantly getting told i need to apply for stuff, basically being told what i should
be thinking, and what i should be doing, personally, i'm quite happy with a month or 2 off, but no one else seems t be lol. my money is all mine
though, its not like anyone else is loosing out because i've not got any money coming in (not signing on either) which i assume is your worry?
if you've not got joint accounts etc, let her get on with it in her own time, if you do, then remind her and then leave it at that. don't
keep on at her, because the more you do, the more she'll put it off. she sounds stubborn like me
quote:
Originally posted by mangogrooveworkshop
wish my ride would actively seek employment....... does a job exist for being on face book 18 hrs aday....
quote:
Originally posted by Miks15
quote:
Originally posted by mangogrooveworkshop
wish my ride would actively seek employment....... does a job exist for being on face book 18 hrs aday....
Does a job exist for being on LB 18 hours a day?
quote:
Originally posted by BenB
quote:
Originally posted by Miks15
quote:
Originally posted by mangogrooveworkshop
wish my ride would actively seek employment....... does a job exist for being on face book 18 hrs aday....
Does a job exist for being on LB 18 hours a day?
Yes, it's called part-time
^^^^^ Nice to see the rates being spent usefully for a change
Hey lads, I must have a one in a million girlfriend then! When she quit her job (primary school teacher), she had a load of business cards and
postcards made, and was out all day long, dropping them in, personally, to every primary school within a 15 mile radius. She also went temping to earn
what she could in the mean time, whilst using up some of her savings without asking me to pay any extra for things.
I think I should make dinner tonight to show my appreciation. Nah, just kidding, she still works less hours than me, so should have it done by the
time I get in! 
It's a hard call OP. I would stress to her that you'll obviously do your best to support the both of you while she's out of work, but
you'll struggle so she needs to secure things for both of you. Unless she knows your loaded, then you're snookered.
Some lasses work like that though, don't they. So laid back they're horizontal but, when it comes to the crunch, they get the job done.
She'll probably get herself sorted.
Good luck!
[Edited on 12/1/11 by Marky911]
How about sitting down with her and working through writing a really good CV.
Then googling the types of business likely to need her skills in your area, and building up a mailing 'list'
Also send it to agencies etc.
Its about working with Her, coaching and supporting,
rather than:
'GET SOME CVs SENT OUT WOMAN!!!!' - come to think of it
Just tell her straight...No nooky till she gets a job....
That'll sort it.....
You mean she'll never get a job ???
Why not have a chat with her about if she's made a plan? Just so you know what she's intending so you can support her. Also say if she wants
any help in doing anything then you're here for her.
Me, i quit in the summer, took 6 months off and am now looking for a job. G/f got made redundant in Sept, took 3 months off and is now looking. We
both talked about our 'plans' and both knew what was going on so no arguments.
Thanks for the replies. I'll just have to tread carefully I think. Don't really want to end in me getting a knuckle sandwich.
quote:
Originally posted by mangogrooveworkshop
wish my ride would actively seek employment....... does a job exist for being on face book 18 hrs aday....