Jon Ison
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 07:22 PM |
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Don't know whether too laugh, cry, smile or be sad.
Dilemma's.......
As many of you are probably aware my Partner June got the all clear some while ago from the big C, you will prob also remember we adopted a little
girl as treatment meant we couldn't have our own.
Well it seems we can  what do we do now ? We are both in our mid forties, we don't yet know if the unborn child is ok, some tests done but
more yet too be done, what if they are ok ? Is June strong enough too carry through the whole term of the pregnancy ?
Part of me feels happy, another part is worried sick, if the baby's ok will Junes body take it, if its not ok do we still continue ? Do we want
too be parents of a teenager on retirement ? Would a teenager want oap's as parents, oh and the marriage we planned for September looks like
going west too.
Apart from that lifes just fine, see you at Donnington tommorow.
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DorsetStrider
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 07:32 PM |
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I am not going to attempt to advise you on this, and without being a doctor I wouldn't have any idea of what the chances are for a successful
pregnancy.
All I will say is that if it were me (bearing in mind my chances of having children are slim to none) IF the doctors said there was no significantly
greater risk I would be inclined to go for it. Teenagers are never easy, but at 60 you'll have more experience in how to handle difficult
situations.
Anyway that's my 2p's worth.
Who the f**K tightened this up!
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SALAD
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 07:42 PM |
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Whatever decision you both make will undoubtedly not have been reached lightly and will therefore be the correct one for you.
I am just glad to hear the big C has been beaten and that you have the opportunity to have children if you wish.
A time to be happy I think 
Just my opinion I hope you don't mind me adding it.
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Triton
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 07:45 PM |
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Crikey mate I feel for you there, best seek expert advice though and from more than one Doctor.
Mark
My Daughter has taken over production of the damn fine Triton race seats and her contact email is emmatrs@live.co.uk.
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Jon Ison
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 07:46 PM |
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No, track day Saturday with our young-ens stock hatch, for those that are puzzled by that I have a 24 year old son from my 1st marriage.
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Kissy
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 07:48 PM |
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Go for it - if the doctor's give June the provisional thumbs-up you'll not look back. My father had two boys (now 24 & 25) when into
his fifties, and my stepmother 40. He made a bloody sight better job of bringing them up than me. Ironically I'm now a grandfather to a 2 1/2
year old at the age of 44, and I have far more concern and time for looking after him than I did my daughter - no question. Bonus is he has been able
to wield a set of allen keys since 18 months!
To repeat: if the doctors give it the ok go for it - you want to go into old age with as few regrets as possible.
Good Luck, whatever you do.
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zilspeed
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 07:53 PM |
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I'm 40, my wife is 43 and our single solitary little girl is 4 and a bit. We couldn't possibly regret having here. Sometimes she drives
me crazy, but then I look at her little face and couldn't ever ever regret having her.
If your lady is able to have a child after all of this heartache then it was simply meant to be.
Her or she will never want for love...
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Mansfield
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 08:02 PM |
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My sister is 13 and my father is 61. She is the most well balanced and likeable adolescent I have have ever met.
Parenting skills, like patience, can be improved with maturity.
For reference, I am 35, I have a sister (whom I love dearly) aged 32, but will never have the balance and maturity of my younger sister.
Best of luck mate.
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dave-69isit
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baby
wish pair off you good look
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David Jenkins
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 08:25 PM |
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Jon,
I couldn't possibly offer advice - but best wishes to you both (no, your whole family!) in whatever turns out.
David
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Lightning
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 08:44 PM |
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I wouldn't worry about the age difference. Most of my youngest daughter's friends parents are older than me.and I'm fast getting to
50.
We had a similar dilemma after losing are 3rd child and wondering if we should have another. We did and thankfully everything worked out fine.
All I can say is ask as many questions as you can and way up the risks, then decide. Makes other problems seem insignificant desn't it.
Thinking of you both.
Steve
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Dusty
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 09:15 PM |
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Totaly your decision but you need to make it with as much information as possible. The two of you need to consult with your partners surgeon,
oncologist and obstetrician as a minimum and urgently. Pay if needed.
Personaly I think your ages are hardly relevant until you have medicaly informed yourselves.
If it's possible to keep the baby I doubt you would have any regrets but it would change your life plan somewhat.
Best wishes.
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BKLOCO
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 09:36 PM |
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No body and I mean NO BODY can advise you on this. It has to be a decision made by the two of you.
Some people make great "older" parents and love it, some hate it.
Just make sure you are in posession of all the facts before you make the decision and whatever that may be, don't look back.
I wish you all the best whatever you decide.
Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want!!! 
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bob
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| posted on 31/3/06 at 09:47 PM |
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If i was in your shoes ?
Well i doubt if i would find another life partner like my wife so i wouldnt really want to take any chances on her health if that makes any sense.
Whatever you decide i wish you both the best wishes possible 
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Fozzie
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| posted on 1/4/06 at 12:59 PM |
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My heart goes out to you both. I can only echo the very sound 'advice' that Dusty has said, adding in your GP too, as he knows you both.
Its only after listening to all of the health specialists, that you can both make an informed decision together.
All the very best whatever the outcome.
Fozzie
'Racing is Life!...anything before or after is just waiting'....Steve McQueen
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