jollygreengiant
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 posted on 9/7/07 at 07:45 PM |
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Mother-in-law RANT
She, TMILFH (the mother in law from hell) has just said that where I live is HER home.
In that case I shall move out and SHE can pay the £1k PCM approx mortgage.
That's better I feel better now. 
Beware of the Goldfish in the tulip mines. The ONLY defence against them is smoking peanut butter sandwiches.
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locoboy
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 07:48 PM |
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Why would she say that unless it is somehow hers?
If it is then like you say up sticks
ATB
Locoboy
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rusty nuts
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:10 PM |
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Does that mean she's staying???
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DIY Si
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:16 PM |
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You could always take her for a long drive out in the taxi, wait for her to fall asleep, then just bundle her out the back and naff off!
Or just ask for contributions to the mortagage, that should get rid pretty sharpish.
“Let your plans be dark and as impenetratable as night, and when you move, fall like a thunderbolt.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
My new blog: http://spritecave.blogspot.co.uk/
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smart51
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:24 PM |
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If that happened to me (in my house that my wife and I own outright) I would put my mother-in-law straight in no uncertain terms. If she didn't
agree, I'd give her 1 weeks notice to find somewhere else to live, tell her that if she didn't leave, her things would be packed and
removed from the house and the locks changed. And I would do it.
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Paul (Notts)
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:31 PM |
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Get that engine running and you’ll feel a lot better, plus the fumes may help solve the problem once and for all
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UncleFista
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:31 PM |
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Well, as devils advocate, if she's staying/living at yours then it is her "home", of a fashion.
Totally different story if she says it's her "house" though 
Tony Bond / UncleFista
Love is like a snowmobile, speeding across the frozen tundra.
Which suddenly flips, pinning you underneath.
At night the ice-weasels come...
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NeilP
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:36 PM |
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Clive,
Borrow the Nuke and she'll expire at mach 1 - Can't be any wrong doing, Officer. She was laughing at the end - Brought a tear to my
eye...
If you pay peanuts...
Mentale, yar? Yar, mentale!
Drive it like you stole it!
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cidersurfer
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:39 PM |
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Change the locks!
shimming solid lifters is a job for a friend...
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mistergrumpy
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:44 PM |
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Its a good point by UncleFista. Or maybe, dare I say without causing offence, she's just going a bit potty in her old age. My old mates
mother-in-law used to come out with some belters, my favourite being "you've never been loved by a man till he's hit you"! Or
the claim that her son in law kept flashing and walking around with his wijer hanging out!! Old age mate, you can't account for it
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ed_crouch
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 08:45 PM |
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Tell her to fu*k off
Ed.
P.S. Never was any good at negotiating.
I-iii-iii-iii-ts ME!
Hurrah.
www.wings-and-wheels.net
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jollygreengiant
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 09:24 PM |
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Well where do I start. Personally I can ignore it. BUT.
She wont let me talk to her because I talk down to her and am condescending.
She praises my cooking and slags of the wifes cooking. We cook the same.
We got told off for contacting her son because she was taken into hospital very poorly once and she is apparently a very private person.
We have been told off for 'listening' to her phone conversations. You can't help it she's deaf so she shouts down the phone.
If your in when she's on the phone your hear bits of the conversation. Even through 3 walls.
She has decided that the food we cook for her is not up to her standards so she is getting food for her self. No problem
Because she is now feeding herself she has stopped contributing COMPLETELY to the house keeping.
She has decided to move out because she/we don't get on with us/her. To be nearer to her son. BUT. She now says that she is going to leave most
of her things here so the she can return here, as and when, she feels like it. Oh and we are supposed to leave the room as it is.
Sorry but the house was purchased in the names of me and my wife. The original way it was supposed to work was, she was only going to spend a max of
six months with us and six months with her son. We have had her now for nearly 2 years. The main problem as I see it is she has come here and tried to
run the household as though she was the queen bee. Sorry but there is only one queen bee in my house and that is my wife.
As I said I could let it all slide over my head, no problemo. However it is my wife who is bearing the brunt of it. It is my wife who did end up on
tranquilisers and it is my wife who I WILL side with and protect.
IF that means that I have got to play the part of Mr Nasty (as SHE thinks I already am) then so be it. The mother-in-law is going to get a very rude
shock on the day she moves out when her son comes to get her.
Beware of the Goldfish in the tulip mines. The ONLY defence against them is smoking peanut butter sandwiches.
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owelly
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 09:27 PM |
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Tricky one for sure. You need to talk to Mrs JGG and see how she feels and then give the MiL a rent book. Make sure she pays a fair rent and if she
winges or fails to cough up, chop her up and put her in the freezer. Be sure to make the bags clearly as you don't want to inadvertantly eat
her.
http://www.ppcmag.co.uk
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dave1888
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 09:42 PM |
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I recon she's got alzheimers.
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worX
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 09:58 PM |
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just remember that blood is thicker than water, and even though your wife (of xx number of years) is now "classed" as blood in your
family, you don't want to do anything without making absolutely sure it's what she wants.
But with all that said, I would hire one of those industrial tree branch chipper things (like in the give up smoking advert) and on the day she is
about to leave, chuck all her stuff in it in front of her...
Steve
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zxrlocost
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 10:07 PM |
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sounds nice........
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blakep82
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 10:48 PM |
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quote:
Originally posted by cidersurfer
Change the locks!
make sure she's out the house first though! you'll only suceed in locking her in...
if the garage is under hers, do a spot of fibreglassing in the garage, i did this last week, and inadvertantly breathed in too many fumes. put me in a
great mood, walked around laughing. the same might happen to her.
she may also laugh when you replace all the light switched and electric sockets in her room with blanking plates, since she's not paying for it
anyway.
if that doesn't work.....
....tell her to wee off
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blakep82
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| posted on 9/7/07 at 10:48 PM |
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quote:
Originally posted by dave1888
I recon she's got alzheimers.
all joking aside, yeah, i think you may be right...
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RK
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| posted on 10/7/07 at 01:10 AM |
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See her doctor and see if he can do something. Tried that with my mum once though. He told me to mind my own business, and that she can come in if she
wants. She made no sense at home, but was fine when out - turned out to be heart/stroke circulatory problems and died at 63.
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Danozeman
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| posted on 10/7/07 at 05:42 AM |
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Tell your brother inlaw to hurry up and take her away because shes getting to much. Sounds like a nightmare. I dont know how you hold your tongue
mate. id have told her to sod off ages ago. Its not healthy for both of you to live like that.
I agree with the blanking plugs on the lights etc. if she aint paying why should she use it. My Gran lives with my mum and dad but shes got her own
side of the house with a kitchen etc so se can be shut away. Its got her own gas and leccy meter.
My wife suggested that when we move we live with her parents for a few weeks while we decorate the new house!!! Yeah right. Theres no chance of
that my MiL is a barking already and shes youngish. Im told my missus to move in with then so i can have some piece to get on with painting. and come
back when im finished..
I would never live my inlaws or my parents again. I like my own space.
Dan
Built the purple peril!! Let the modifications begin!!
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iank
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| posted on 10/7/07 at 07:57 AM |
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Day after she moves out tell her you've let her room out to a paying lodger
Possibly even get a paying lodger
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Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level, then beat you with experience.
Anonymous
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DarrenW
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| posted on 10/7/07 at 08:05 AM |
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JGG - i reckon you are a hero and a saint. Not many would let the MIL into the house at all never mind for 2 years. Hats off to you for that.
Not an easy position to be in. Lets hope you have a sound relationship with the Boss so when you turn up the heat she understands the game plan. If my
wife ended up on tablets as a result of this i dont think id ake things so lightly (and i have the longest fuse and most placid manner of all people).
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DIY Si
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| posted on 10/7/07 at 11:47 AM |
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Blimey mate, I didn't know it was that bad! In which case you need to speak to BIL, and get shot ASAP, if not sooner. TELL him to come and get
her before you chuck her out. Whilst maybe a bit harsh, I quite like the blanking plate idea. If she refuses to pay any upkeep, refuse her any
benefits. Make sure she does her own washing, pays her way etc etc. Then she may naff off on her own without you having to actually kick her out. And
as Mark said, since you're already the villain of the situation, you may as well do something to deserve the name. Just make sure you run it
past SWMBO, so she doesn't give in when your not there to back her up.
“Let your plans be dark and as impenetratable as night, and when you move, fall like a thunderbolt.”
Sun Tzu, The Art of War
My new blog: http://spritecave.blogspot.co.uk/
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